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Do you say yes when you mean no? Do you hold back your work until it feels perfect, even though it never does? People pleasing and perfectionism might feel like two different problems but they come from the exact same place: fear.

In this episode of In Confidence, Lisa sits down with bestselling author of Unlearning Silence, TEDx speaker, and former Harvard Law School lecturer Elaine Lin Hering to unpack where these patterns come from, why they are so hard to break, and what to actually do about them. In this episode you will learn:
* Why people pleasing and perfectionism are rooted in the same fear
* The difference between being a generous collaborator and a people pleaser who is quietly burning out
* Two questions to ask yourself when you have lost touch with what you actually want
* How to share your perspective at work without feeling like you are overstepping
* A low risk experiment you can try today to begin unlearning both patterns

You have been solving for everyone else. It is time to put yourself back in the equation.

00:00 - Intro
03:37 - The Real Cost of People Pleasing
06:16 - Why Perfectionism Keeps You Stuck
10:54 - Meet Elaine Lin Hering
17:50 - How to Stop Being a People Pleaser and a Perfectionist
21:59 - The Difference Between Collaboration and People Pleasing
23:21 - Ask Yourself These Two Questions
26:40 - Own Your Perspective
29:10 - Measure Your Own Success
32:29 - Try a Low-Risk Experiment
34:27 - Lisa's Power Move and Shoutout